We all have life experiences. Each of them helps mold us into the people we become. Some of those experiences are wonderful. We cherish them and hold them dear. We thank God for them with hearts bursting full of gratitude.
Some, however, wear us down and chip at our sagging self-esteem. They help undermine our thinking, cause us to question our worth and sometimes send us running for cover. After a string of such experiences, we often start believing their lies.
But it doesn’t have to be that way.
I became a student of healthy self-esteem many years ago, hungrily learning all I could through young adulthood, college, marriage, children and grandchildren. I tried hard to learn (and sometimes re-learn) the many lessons life threw my way. I wasn’t always grateful for the learning process. I’ve made mistakes along the way. But I’ve also had tremendous successes. And throughout the process, I’ve learned to shed harmful thinking errors and embrace the truth about who I am, where I’m headed and why I’m here.
If you were blessed with good parents, people who instilled in you great value, who loved you and made sure you knew it, who taught you to dream and guided you along the way then you were given an amazing gift. Quite possibly the greatest gift you’ll ever receive.
Not everyone is given that foundational and important gift. But there’s good news. You can change. You possess the ability to break the cycle. You can stand up to the lies and decide to live in the truth. No matter where you’ve come from or how you see yourself. No matter what others have told you, or what your family history says you will be.
It can start with you. And I’d like to partner with you in your journey share with you what I’ve learned, and cheer you on as you go. It’s not always going to be easy. But I can tell you for a fact, it IS possible and it IS worth it!
YOU can do it. Why not start today? Pay attention. Watch yourself, like a mouse in your pocket.
August 4th, 2010 at 8:43 am
What a beautiful post, Linda! You really have a gift for sending encouraging messages like this. Today had started off rough for me, but after reading this I’m already beginning to travel to the light at the end of the tunnel. Thank you!
August 4th, 2010 at 12:59 pm
You’re too kind Lucinda~
Thank you for saying so!
~Linda
April 7th, 2011 at 8:10 am
“We all have life experiences. Each of them helps mold us into the people we become”
WE become who we are because of the experiences that we have in the past. I think we just got to learn from them and even though we have experienced negative events in our lives, we just got to think positive and think that there is a reason why that happened to us.
Great post Linda. Looking forward to your inspiring post in the future.
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April 8th, 2011 at 6:58 am
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April 19th, 2011 at 9:46 am
@Katie
I agree with you Katie. our daily experiences will definitely shape and hone us. It will help define our character.
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April 20th, 2011 at 11:55 am
Pam,
Thank you for visiting my blog, lindagraceonline.com! I noticed you don’t have a gravatar! Connecting an image to your comment (actually to your email address) is very important! It’s simple and free! Check out this post and I’ll walk you through it! http://lindagraceonline.com/get-the-focus-on-you/
To our success,
Linda
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April 10th, 2011 at 9:01 am
Linda, I must say you are an inspirational character and your writing tells it all. Going through your blog, I felt an inner attainment which I was missing for long. Your words are simply encouraging.
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April 10th, 2011 at 9:58 pm
Hey Heidi!
Thanks for visiting my blog! I look forward to reading your latest post too! I noticed you don’t have a Gravatar! I created a post to show you how to get this simple and free account! Check this out here: http://lindagraceonline.com/get-the-focus-on-you/
April 14th, 2011 at 11:02 pm
Self esteem can indeed be shattering to any person’s dream once encountered in an immature way. That’s why I always admire athletes, they always need confidence and belief whenever they play their respective sport…focus on achieving their dreams and standing up and never givin up even if they lost.
It’s a very nice read Linda, time waits for no one so everyone should change his/her own life the way she wanted to now.
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April 15th, 2011 at 5:57 am
Thank you Rachel I’m glad you visited my blog! How did you find me?
Linda
Why don’t you get a gravatar? I’ll show you how here http://lindagraceonline.com/get-the-focus-on-you/ then leave another comment and let me see!
Linda
April 17th, 2011 at 4:42 am
Dear Linda, these things that you said really touched my heart. This post really raised my hopes up and encouraged me to be someone who can be confident. Thank you for the inspiration you gave me. It’s thanks to you that I’ve got my self-esteem higher. Please continue on bringing hope to those people who were like me and those who seek for help from people like you who gives faith in people. Indeed, you are a one-of-a-kind person.
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April 17th, 2011 at 9:08 am
ahhh, thanks for all your kind words, I bet you give to everyone just like you did to me! Hey, how did you find me?
Linda
July 13th, 2011 at 1:43 am
I like all of your posts, you encourage people despite the troubles and trials that we are experiencing. It feels good when I read it. You lift me up.
Benny
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July 22nd, 2011 at 11:38 am
your post is very uplifting! I once had low self-esteem because there are things i want to do but I just couldn’t cos of fear that I might not be able to do it. But I did try my best to overcome whatever fear I have. Your article here helps boost my self-esteem more. Thank you!
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September 13th, 2011 at 3:04 pm
Very nice article you have here! Its basically good to have these kinds of article as this can help a lot of people and they can connect to what you are trying to tell them. Thank you for sharing an idea!
More power!
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October 20th, 2011 at 11:31 pm
Linda,
Thank you for the words of encouragement. Sometimes it is hard to pull-out of the pit of low self-esteem but just reading your article makes me feel better about myself. Sometimes a little reminder is very helpful.
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October 21st, 2011 at 7:06 am
Kent,
I agree, it is sometimes difficult to pull out,, but once we’re out, it’s much easier to maintain a high self-esteem!
Linda
November 18th, 2011 at 4:53 am
Our life experiences are the best teachers. They make us who we are and what we will become. We always learn a lesson from our experiences.
Another inspiring post, Linda!
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December 4th, 2011 at 5:26 am
We often encounter people who really put us down so we will realize that we are way beyond their league. They teach us to be confident with what we can do, to be content with what we have. Nice post Linda!
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December 26th, 2011 at 9:21 pm
Great post Linda. The ones who damage people in this way have no idea the harm they bring.
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January 13th, 2012 at 1:40 am
It always pays to know how much you need to give yourself more than what you can for others. Before you’d learn to love and appreciate, start with YOU, there’s nothing more important.
April 24th, 2011 at 6:40 am
It is all in the mind. Self-esteem can do wonders if used in a proper manner. Though everyone faces difficulties in life, but with confidence & self motivation power we can overcome any obstacle.
Thanx for such a nice blog.
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April 24th, 2011 at 9:22 am
Max,
Why don’t you get a gravatar? I’ll show you how here http://lindagraceonline.com/get-the-focus-on-you/ then leave another comment and let me see!
Linda
August 20th, 2011 at 1:45 am
Hello Linda! Thanks for sharing your experiences and for being an inspiration to all of us. It’s certainly true that we all had wonderful and bad experiences that made us who we are today. But I’m a big believer that it’s never too late for us to change and to try harder to be a better person…
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August 22nd, 2011 at 8:14 pm
Amanda,
I agree with you! It is what it is and I’m doing my best is my motto!
Linda
November 6th, 2011 at 6:47 pm
As my experience of my self it was so very difficult cause of hard trials and i admit it is not easy to move on life .
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November 6th, 2011 at 9:26 pm
Thanks Linda for sharing this wonderful article .. it really makes me feel better while reading this. It’s really good when someone gives some advice to make you a better person. You inspired me a lot!
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November 10th, 2011 at 9:58 pm
You Linda did a good job for sharing this article because you have widen our understandings. Thanks and may God bless you!
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November 14th, 2011 at 12:43 am
This article has inspired me so much. Thanks a bunch!
November 15th, 2011 at 5:52 am
“We all have life experiences. Each of them helps mold us into the people we become. Some of those experiences are wonderful. We cherish them and hold them dear…”
Experience: We treasure, we consider, fight for, and share it.
Like your quote
November 16th, 2011 at 1:55 am
@Linda, So glad that someone like you made this blog for the sake of sharing your knowledge. More power to you!
November 17th, 2011 at 1:11 am
Hi there Linda! I am glad to read your article. You have shared what is your experiences in life and it help to people. Continue to serve GOD and more power!
November 24th, 2011 at 2:40 am
You’re such an amazing woman Linda. You’re such an inspiration to people.
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November 27th, 2011 at 10:24 pm
Dona,
Thank you for saying so!
Linda
December 28th, 2011 at 3:07 am
What is attitude? It is what you think, believe, feel, expect, act, in relation to yourself, life, people, and your goals. Attitude can be positive or it can be negative; it can be limiting or it can be expanding; if you have a positive attitude, you feel alive, well, loved, happy, liked, confident,… you feel good; if you have a negative attitude, you feel angry, resentful, fearful, depressed, anxious, hopeless,… you feel bad. Your feelings are your thermometer to your attitude and, as we will see below, your life is the mirror to your attitude.