Tell-tail Signs of Low-Self-Esteem
Wondering how your children stack up on the self-esteem scale? Although there’s no sure-fire way to gauge and grade self-esteem, there are some key signs to look for:
1. Does your child avoid activities or situations that cause anxiety (i.e. math class or PE)?
2. Does your child repeatedly put down his talents?
3. Does your child blame others for her shortcomings and have a hard time taking responsibility for his own actions?
4. Do others easily influence your child? Does he repeatedly give in to peer pressure?
5. Is your child defensive or have a low tolerance for frustration?
6. Does your child feel powerless?
According to Clemes and Bean, researchers and authors, these characteristics are often associated with children struggling with low self-esteem.
If your child exhibits many of these characteristics, don’t panic. Self-esteem is formed. This means it can be molded in new directions. Consistent love, support and feelings of acceptance can begin to turn the tide. Make no doubt about it kids don’t miss a thing! If you help them feel important, it will make a difference. Before long you will see less and less self-esteem challenged behavior as your child will becomes increasingly self-confident.
November 11th, 2011 at 12:24 am
I’m not sure about other indicators of low self-esteem if it is apparent to my niece, but I’ve noticed my 8 year old niece, most of the time, to be very defensive about little things. I’m starting to worry why she is so defensive when in fact she shouldn’t be. I talked to her about this, but she’s still doing it. The problem right now is that she wouldn’t listen to anyone and I don’t know how to help her if she will keep closing her ears to my advice.
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November 11th, 2011 at 5:22 pm
Candice,
Just love her and accept her as long as she’s not doing anything illegal or immoral. She is so young she’s just trying to figure it all out! Let her get to the point that she trusts you, then she’ll start to listen! I’m happy for her that she has you!
Linda
December 28th, 2011 at 10:49 pm
That’s right Linda, for me the best is to be a honest to your partner and dont let him think a negative way..
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