One day, I was at the tail end of an MS exacerbation and I wasn’t able to do everything for my children that I used to do. I had always planned and prepared wonderful activities for my kids. Of course, they did their work around the house, they earned their money, the older kids paid for their own car-insurance. They were becoming responsible, contributing members of society, but I had been able to celebrate life with them! We were so happy!
I was in the kitchen, slowly cooking dinner, trying to hide the tears of mourning in my eyes, when my daughter noticed and asked, “What’s wrong, Mom?” I told her I was feeling sad because I couldn’t do everything that I used to be able to do.
“My greatest sadness,” I told her, “is that I won’t be able to make you happy.”
“But Mom,” Jaimi said, “I am happy.”
It was an “AH-HA Moment!” It came to me that I’m not responsible for my children’s happiness, anyone’s happiness for that matter! We all create our own reality!
Another great lesson that I learned through this MS experience. We truly are the creators of our own universe, no matter what our external circumstances are, we can be truly happy!
PS. This is Jaimi in 2001 and then again graduating high school in 2010.
January 13th, 2010 at 5:13 pm
Hi Linda,
Thanks for the inspiring blog above about happiness. It’s so true we create our own happiness. Even in dire straits,we can make that choice.
Thanks you Linda for your postive posts on FB, I love reading them. Thanks also for visiting our blog & signing in,its wonderful we can support each other. You have a wonderful sunshiny day girl. Thanks again
January 14th, 2010 at 4:15 pm
Thank you Naomi! I appreciate your posts too! Our relationship is like everyone talks about ~like minds!
October 5th, 2010 at 7:24 am
Hi Linda:
I love this post. Sometimes we project our own feelings of unhappiness onto others and don’t realize it’s not in their mind – it’s in ours. Thanks for that.
Leslie
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October 5th, 2010 at 10:16 pm
Hey Leslie!
You are so right! I thinks we do that Alot!! We assume to know what other people are thinking and feeling, filtering it all through our own experiences! It’s all about communication!
Linda
April 25th, 2011 at 4:56 pm
Thank you for writing this inspiring post. I was speechless soon after reading it. I found I definitely agree with you. It leads me to think that happiness does not always related to ‘big matters’. Sometimes it occurs from simple things even just a piece of smile. God bless you.
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April 26th, 2011 at 7:17 am
Roger,
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July 7th, 2011 at 5:41 pm
I agree with you. As a mother my greatest happiness is to be happy my children. we would feel disappointed if we can not our children happy. But in my opinion, the love we give them is something that is most meaningful to our children.
September 28th, 2011 at 10:24 pm
As a hidden treasure in life, there is always happiness even if we are facing a lot of problems. All I wanna say is all of us deserves to be happy.
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September 30th, 2011 at 2:56 pm
Yes Michelle! You are so right! It’s the way God intended!
Linda
October 3rd, 2011 at 2:57 am
Hi Linda,
I think those people who are happy are those individuals who feel grateful about their life and those who are contented with what they have. What do you think?
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October 25th, 2011 at 6:55 pm
It’s like you read my mind! You seem to know so much about this, like you wrote the book in it or something. I think that you can do with some pictures to drive the message home a bit, but instead of that, this is excellent blog. A fantastic read. I will certainly be back.
October 27th, 2011 at 7:39 am
Amanda,
I’m wondering if you’re paying attention to what you’re commenting about, there are at least 2 pictures on this post!
Linda
February 8th, 2012 at 9:00 pm
Hi Linda, with this post you are really lucky to your kids.. thanks for sharing those thoughts… I hope my kids to when they grow up I want to make my proud and happy always..
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