In spite of her intelligence, Emily comes from an unstable home. Her father drinks too much and often erupts into violent screaming rampages, telling Emily she’s stupid and lazy.
Sara, one of Emily’s classmates, works hard for her grades. Although not nearly as bright as Emily, Sara knows she is loved. Her close-knit family instills in Sara that she’s valuable and can do anything she sets her mind to.
Which girl do you think does better in school?
Multiple studies show over and over that a child with average intelligence and healthy self-esteem will out-score and out-perform a child with much higher intelligence and lower self-esteem.
Why is this? For one, a low self-esteem child is easily distracted, more anxious and fearful, and feels more pressure than children with a healthy view of themselves. They simply don’t have enough energy leftover to concentrate on learning.
As children grow, so do the pressures facing them. In the face of adolescence, with it’s own set of uncertainties, body image becomes increasingly important. Teaching a child how to feed their bodies is important, but even more important is teaching a child what to feed her mind.
Nielsen Co. conducted a survey about the television viewing habits of Americans. They concluded that the average American watches four hours of TV daily. While the typical American youth spends 900 hours a year in school, they spend 1500 hours a year in front of the television.
This translates into viewing, roughly, 20,000 commercials per year. Commercials filled with models that are thinner than 95% of the population. And this becomes part of the ‘standard’ our children look to for acceptance and worth.
Loving on our children and helping them know they are wonderful just how they are, does more for them than we can imagine. They’ll get better grades. They will have a better view of themselves and their bodies. They will have healthier relationships with others. And they’ll grow up to be healthy, well-adjusted adults that aren’t victim to the skewed views of the world around them.
You’ve probably heard the saying GARBAGE IN, GARBAGE OUT, but why not put a positive spin on it? Fill your children with good and good will eventually find it’s way back out! Good in, Good Out! GIGO!!
About Linda: With a bachelors in Social Work, Linda is 54 years old, happily married with eight children and has been living with Multiple Sclerosis since 1995. Linda’s unexpected path in life has led to her helping others choose happiness in their own realities. Linda’s focus has always been to help others with compassion and nurturing, whether working as a group counselor at the abused women’s shelter in Anchorage or while raising their eight children, Linda has always been a nurturer. Her gift for wanting to help others fits perfectly into reaching her goal of becoming a certified life coach.