Create a Wonderful Life: Fall in love with yourself

Tue, Feb 23, 2010

Find Yourself

Fall in love with yourself, not in a conceited or proud way, but with the adoration that every person on this earth deserves.

We are taught from a young age that it’s vain and wrong to love ourselves, but in reality we are the ultimate and unconditional source of LOVE ITSELF.
The closer we get to unconditionally loving ourselves the more wonderful our lives will be.

10 ways to expedite the process of falling in love with yourself-

1. Praise yourself. Learn to complement everything that you do. See the good that you do and acknowledge it. When you complete a task, you did some things right! Focus on them, feel good about them.

2. Forgive yourself. Forgive yourself and stop putting anger and resentment into your mind that will prevent change.

We all make mistakes remember it’s ok to make mistakes while you’re learning.

3. Support yourself. Ask for help when you need it. Don’t let ego get in the way. People are more than willing to help a person with a positive attitude. It brings joy to the giver as well as the receiver.

4. Stop criticizing yourself. The power of the subconscious is amazing. As we pay attention and become a master observer we’ll realize how deeply rooted our beliefs about ourselves are.

If you were raised in a troubled home you might have become super-responsible.

When you take on that responsibility it’s easy to be critical of yourselves. This responsibility might lead you to think you’re not good enough. You find ways to feel guilty and miserable. The old tapes of being bad, ugly, lazy, or worthless will start to surface.

You must take the time to create and say affirmations to retrain your mind.

5. Take care of your body. Alcohol and drugs are the most popular method of escape. Stuffing food in is another way to hide from emotions.

These indulgences alone do not make a bad person, if these are a part of your life and are your method of escape, you just haven’t found a more positive way of fulfilling your needs. The negative effects of this indulgence far out ways the temporary high of escape and it will add guilt and negative feelings of self.

6. Take nutrition into your own hands. Be aware of what you put into your mouths and how it makes you feel. Food companies and advertisers influence our eating habits. You must get control of your eating.

Many healthy lifestyle diets are popular. Remember what works for one person doesn’t necessarily work for everyone; another reason to pay attention, find out which diet works best for you.

Find exercise that you enjoy and do it.

7. Stop scaring yourself. Leave the little kid fear behind, there are no monsters under the bed. Often people fall into sleep dreaming, fearing the worst possibilities – if someone makes a comment at work, or their kids are not making choices that obviously will lead to unhappiness, or if someone doesn’t call,  it is assumed you’re not worthy of love. It is amazing how when you imagine that something is, it will come to pass.

Meditate, visualize optimistic outcomes.

8. Be kind to your mind. Remember negative thoughts are affirmations. When the negative thought comes to your mind, take control. Say to yourself, I’m not going to think about that anymore, I love myself. I am a loveable, kind person.

Negative thoughts will bring you down. Think thoughts that will build you up, not beat you up. These experiences are learning experiences

A mantra is a sacred verbal formula repeated in prayer or meditation. When you choose a word, or a phrase, and say it regularly it will become part of you. Choose a mantra; maybe “Love” or “I love myself.”

9. Don’t pretend to be perfect. No one is perfect. Instead discover creative distinctions that show your individuality and appreciate yourselves for the qualities that make you different from others. Each of you has a unique role to play on this earth.

You can dream big, set goals and work at achieving them. But being perfect puts extreme pressure and prevents you from looking at areas of your lives that need healing.

10. Be patient with yourself. When you feel the love for yourself, recognize your areas of needed growth, and work on them, with no criticism, you will see the world in a new light. Since you don’t criticize others, you won’t worry about others criticizing you. It is amazing how happy you can be.

All you have to do is recognize the love within you.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that our value is dependent on what we’ve done, but it’s not true! When we leave this planet, we can take nothing with us. Nothing except what is in our hearts and minds. We will take with us our capacity to love.

Our very nature is LOVE itself!

Thanks for reading this post~ Tell me in the comments below how you feel about Love and how you’ve learned to love yourself.

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111 Responses to “Create a Wonderful Life: Fall in love with yourself”

  1. Debby Beachy Says:

    Thank you Grace! There was a time I had very low opinion of myself. I was in a church where we were taught to empty ourselves of yourself…not good! I have been on a “Journey Towards Treasured Inner Value” for the last 2 years, I can now say I love myself!

    Thanks for Sharing!
    Debby
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  2. Linda Grace Says:

    How awful!! I am amazed at how the people in our lives, though good intentioned, wreak havoc! Forgiveness then is left up to us! It’s awesome how you have stepped up and undone the damage! Thank you for sharing!

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  3. James Humphrey Says:

    Great Post Linda – If we can’t love ourselves then how can we love others. Loved the post and how you outlined the steps..Keep it up!

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  4. Michael Kaleikini Says:

    I am thrilled to read this blog!

    It shows that you have to be you, and in love with you. Not narcissistic, but IN LOVE! WOOOT!

    It is true the one Characteristic that saves us from being so destructive both outwardly and inward is the ability to LOVE.

    Thank you for sharing this Grace. This is wonderful content! Sharing this with my gang on facebook too!
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  5. Toni King Says:

    Great post Linda, they are 10 excellent points for anyone to incorporate into their lives. It’s true that most of us grew up being told not to love ourselves, thank goodness we finally realised what an unhealthy mindset this was. Thanks for sharing. Cheers Toni
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  6. Darlene Davis Says:

    My dear friend,
    You practice these steps in YOUR daily life. You are a constant inspiration to me with your positive support and feedback. You always have that beautiful smile and a cheery word or two.

    The hardest step is to realize you aren’t perfect. I’ve had a difficult time doing anything unless I felt it was perfect and sometimes that’s a standard that isn’t achievable. Realizing that it’s okay is another matter. Still working on that one!

    Thanks for the great reminders. We need to employ them every single day!
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  7. Matt Jones Says:

    Thanks so much for this awesome post Linda. You really have a lot of experience and i am so grateful that you are sharing it with everyone. Its so easy to get caught up in life’s pressures that we forget about who we are and how great we are! Paul Blackburn always asks the question, “What Is Love” and the eventual answer after looking deep within is “I am love”
    Thanks Linda
    Cheers,
    Matt
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  8. Harold Dongo Says:

    What a brutally fair post! All these snacks and pizzas are junk food. And these cause worst effect on body and mind.
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  12. Dave and Dawn Cook Says:

    Linda,
    Just found this post today and I really enjoyed reading it.
    You are so correct that we need to love ourselves to be happy and your 10 steps are excellent. Be kind to your mind was my favorite. I’ll create a mantra that will benefit me.
    Thanks for writing this post. It was written well by someone who sincerely cares. Great job!
    Dawn
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  13. Monika Genehr Says:

    Linda Grace, you have a beautiful name and it fits you perfectly. The proof is in the pudding or more specifically in your post here where you share your love and wisdom from your heart. You give words to live by that I appreciate very much. Thank you!

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  18. Parenting Mom @ Parenting Tips Says:

    Wow, really detailed and interesting post… It sure give me a lot of ideas on motivational self help. thanks for the great post.. I will sure coming back here to get updated :)
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  19. Yorinda Says:

    Hi Linda,
    awesome post. Love all ten points.
    Old patterns surfacing can throw the spanner in the works, if we are not aware that that is what they are.
    In my training I came across that if a negative feeling stays around for more than about 10 min it is an old pattern. It could be even less than ten min.

    I appreciate you sharing this.

    Love and Light
    from
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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Yorinda~
      Wow! I didn’t know that 10 minutes could create an “old pattern”. Imagine what happens when we “stew” about an experience!
      Thank you for sharing!
      ~Linda

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  20. Need Love Says:

    Yes Linda, you’re right. We should love ourself first. Thanks for sharing good news!
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  21. Classic Tuxedo Says:

    I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. It sure give me a lot of ideas on motivational self help. thanks for the great post.

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  22. Robert F. Filcsik Photography Says:

    I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves! The golden rule to treat others as we would like to be treated is exactly as it will be. It sure give me a lot of ideas on motivational self help. Thanks for the great post.

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  23. raleigh wedding photographer Says:

    I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. The golden rule to treat others as we would like to be treated is exactly as it will be. Forgiveness then is left up to us! It’s awesome how you have stepped up and undone the damage.

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Raleigh,
      Thank you for saying so! I couldn’t agree more! We can only love others as much as we love ourselves!!! With this knowledge, just imagine where we’ll go!
      Linda
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  24. Danielle Says:

    When you fall in love with yourself, you can’t help but experience a wonderful sense of discovery. You begin to look at yourself again through fresh eyes, becoming more attentive to the little details that make you so unique. Once you discover how much there is about you to fall in love with, you can’t help but want to treat yourself as lovingly and respectfully as you would treat anyone who is special to you. You start to give to yourself more because you become more attentive to your own needs and desires.

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Thank you Danielle for vising my blog! I couldn’t agree with you more! When we truly love ourselves we’ll do what we need to to take care of ourselves, then we’ll be more able to help others!
      Linda
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  25. wedding photographers raleigh Says:

    Maybe you’re not sure exactly when it happened, but somehow it became a habit to focus on what was wrong with your body, your life, and your inner being. No need to dig up old skeletons, but there is a need to change focus. Start looking for evidence of your worth and beauty. Don’t just come up with a thing or two you enjoy about yourself, come up with a hundred wonderful things about you. Write those things down and begin the process of teaching yourself to recognize the love that is you.

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  26. raleigh wedding photographer Says:

    Make the choice to love yourself and the feeling will come. After all, who deserves it more? The more loving you are to yourself, the more loving you will be able to be to everyone around you. Family and friends will especially benefit from this. Make a choice to come from a place of love for yourself and for everyone who is important in your life.

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Raleigh,
      Yes! When we hear the commandment “Love others as you love yourself” I believe it’s natural, you will love others like you love yourself!
      Linda

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  27. raleigh wedding photographers Says:

    Banish all bad and negative memories and thoughts from your head; think only of positive events, people and allow only positive ideas to enter your mind. It’s easy. If you try it only for a couple of days you won’t see big differences. Be persistent and in a couple of weeks your life will become better forever.

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  28. raleigh senior portrait photographer Says:

    Cultivating an inner appreciation for the joy that is already present in our lives shifts our focus from what is wrong with our lives to what is right. If we take the time, no matter how troubled we feel, we can find something about ourselves and our life to be thankful for. Allowing yourself the opportunity to feel even a little better than you feel right now is how a great life expands.

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  29. raleigh wedding photography Says:

    You need to accept yourself right now. You need to tell yourself that you accept yourself and love the person you are in this moment. Now. Not tomorrow. Accept everything. Say it out loud. Tell your hands and feet you accept them. Tell your stomach and thighs you accept them. Tell your mind you accept it, your voice, your eyes, your back, your bottom. If you wait until you’ve lost or gained some weight to love yourself, or if you only feel beautiful with make up on, if you set yourself conditions, you will never be able to fully love yourself. Love yourself unconditionally. Accept any changes that occur within your body. If you feel that you need to lose or gain weight, do it healthily, but love yourself every step of the way.

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  30. Copper Basin Construction Says:

    I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves. The golden rule to treat others as we would like to be treated is exactly as it will be. Thank you.

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  31. Liam@Wedding Photography Sydney Says:

    Great post Linda! Like you, I firmly believe that it is important to love yourself as well. How can you give and spread love to others if you do not love yourself in the first place? The act of loving somebody else without learning to appreciate more yourself will define the act as hypocrital. I hope that many people will read this blog and be aware of the importance of loving ones self also.
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  32. Jason@Wedding Photography Sydney Says:

    Such a timely post Linda..I love how you relate well with your readers..It is indeed important to love yourself .. It is not a selfish thing to do and besides it would be impossible extending your love to others if you do not love your own self.. The source of love is yourself

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  33. John @ Review Compare Says:

    Great article – many people are far too hard on themselves – if you dont appreciate you, no one else will
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  34. Donate Car Says:

    Blackburn always asks the question, “What Is Love” and the eventual answer after looking deep within is “I am love”

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  35. Paycheck Calculator Says:

    The act of loving somebody else without learning to appreciate more yourself will define the act as hypocrital. I hope that many people will read this blog and be aware of the importance of loving ones self also.I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

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  36. BMI Calculator Says:

    I hope that many people will read this blog and be aware of the importance of loving ones self also.I believe we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

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  37. BMI Calculator Says:

    The proof is in the pudding or more specifically in your post here where you share your love and wisdom from your heart. You give words to live by that I appreciate very much. Thank you!

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  38. Paycheck Calculator Says:

    I love how you relate well with your readers..It is indeed important to love yourself .. It is not a selfish thing to do and besides it would be impossible extending your love to others if you do not love your own self…….
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  39. GPA Calculator Says:

    You can’t help but want to treat yourself as lovingly and respectfully as you would treat anyone who is special to you. You start to give to yourself more because you become more attentive to your own needs and desires……………
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  40. Mortgage Amortization Calculator Says:

    If we can’t love ourselves then how can we love others……..

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  41. Amit@Forklift Training Says:

    Dalai Lama once said “If you don’t love yourself, you cannot love others. You will not be able to love others.”
    When we think about loving ourselves we tend to think of narcissism, but that’s a completely different feeling.
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  42. Tara @ Testosterone Treatment Says:

    I know this is an older post but I stumbled upon it in your “popular posts” section and I’m glad I did because there is some great advice here! I try to follow it as best I can on a daily basis already, but having it all laid out to read is really helpful. Thanks, Linda! As usual, I really enjoyed reading this.

    Tara

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  43. Samantha@Personal injury solicitors Says:

    Wow! I should have a read of this on a daily basis. This is something I wouldnt usually comment on and actually sumbled across your blog but glad I’ve found it! I’ll bookmark this for future reference.

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Bob,
      I love the encouragement! I’ve finally decided on my niche, and even though I love personal growth and development, I’m going to primarily focus on living with chronic illness on http://msrelief.com and marketing online with lindagraceonline.com.
      Linda

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  44. dave@free internet dating Says:

    Very good tips on how to love yourself more – my only problem is that I tend to drink a six pack when I get home from work, I know it’s killing my liver but relaxes the heck out of me. :)

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  45. Michelle@Classic Photographers Says:

    As they said in order to love other people, fall in love with yourself first. You can only love best if you love yourself.

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Michelle,
      I agree with that completely! When some of my friends heard me say we need to fall in love with ourselves they thought I was telling people to brag, be boastful. You understand what I was trying to say!
      Linda

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  46. Directory Website Says:

    I love this post, life really is much better when we fall in love with ourselves!

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  47. the no contact rule Says:

    Linda Grace! The 13 says you have above are extremely powerful and right on point. All parents should follow that list and i know some parents that need to. My favorite one is

    ” Accept your children as they are. Don’t make your love and acceptance dependent on their behavior.”

    Too many parents try and force their kids to do something and all it does is create resentment and pressure. Parents should learn to be more accepting and less controlling. Then kids would listen more because it would be easier to get more comfortable around the parents.

    I am going to print out this list. Thanks again Linda

    Thomas Trumen
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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Thomas,
      Thank you for sharing! I have raised my children with ‘Love and Logic Parenting’ by Cline and Fay. They teach these skills beautifully! I’d like to pass out ‘Love and Logic Parenting’ CDs to everyone I see who needs them!
      Linda

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  48. Scott@Scott English Plumbing Says:

    I believe that in order for you to really love someone, you should first love yourself in order for you to easy give love. And in loving yourself, you have to take care of yourself and love purely. So right now, I am on the bridge of loving myself and taking good care of it.

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  49. Andana Says:

    Fantastic article! I just love reading your articles – they are so informative and very well written. I just started blogging myself but I still don’t know much about tweaking my layouts, and how I should go about making my content. Getting off topic, I just want to say thank you for sharing this article and I hope I can read more of your works soon. I already subscribed to your blog and I look forward to your future projects. Keep up the good work and God speed!

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  50. Jerryl@Toilet Paper Says:

    A nice advice on caring ourselves, sometimes we forget our selves and prioritize the needs of other person.
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  51. Linda Says:

    Thank you Linda for the amazing tips. Once in my life, I had gone through depression and even thought about ending my life but then I thought that we have no right to take life when we ourselves cannot give it. I slowly emerged out of it by constant praying and improving my self-worth. I think such posts can be very helpful for those who have lost their self worth!
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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Linda,
      I’m wondering if you were able to get out of such depression without medication. When we’re that depressed it’s a miracle to drag yourself out of it without medication. I’m glad that you are feeling your self-esteem rise!
      Linda

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    I am amazed at how the people in our lives, though good intentioned, wreak havoc! Forgiveness then is left up to us. I just started blogging myself but I still don’t know much about tweaking my layouts, and how I should go about making my content. Getting off topic, I just want to say thank you for sharing this article and I hope I can read more of your works soon. Thank you.

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  53. reign Says:

    If we don’t do all these things, then we should get a life. I mean, we are incapable of loving someone if we don’t love ourselves first.
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    Thanks Linda for sharing this amazing article,you make me feel that we people forget our self in busy life and we should think about our self also.
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    Today many people use to take alcohol and ciggerate which is not good for health and which must be prohibited in their life

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  63. Plumber Chino Hills Says:

    Falling in love with yourself is an interesting concept. I think some people take it to far though. I like the tips you wrote and a truly happier life can come from a little self appreciation :)

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    • Linda Grace Says:

      Penny,
      I believe if we recognize our value we’ll see everyone else’s worth also, we won’t need to brag and take it too far! We’ll recognize it for what it is, everyone is a diamond in the rough, some are just rougher than others!
      Linda

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