Forgive Life for not Meeting Expectations

Highway drive with sun and fogWilliam Shakespeare said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.”

Expectations are really nothing but thoughts and illusions you made up and to which you have become overly attached. They aren’t real. We made up these expectations about what our life “should be” and now we feel robbed that we didn’t get it. Life was never about meeting our expectations.

You must let go of your expectations so you can make peace with life as it is.

Kim Giles, in an article first published on KSL has given me permission to share this with you. She recognizes it’s not that easy to feel positive when things keep going wrong.

It is what it is.

It’s a principle of truth, the nature of life: If it was supposed to be something else, it would be. There is perfect order in the universe and everything happens for a reason.

We know first hand how miserable, disappointing and discouraging life can be. Kim admits her life has not been an easy ride either, but a large part of our suffering is self-inflicted, in that, we are choosing to be frustrated that life didn’t meet our expectations (expectations we created that are nothing but figments of our imagination).

The answer to end our suffering does not lie in changing our situation and making it right (which usually can’t be done anyway) but in changing how we think about it. You aren’t going to feel better until you change your perspective and see your life more accurately.

Everything from the smallest insect to the largest planet in this galaxy does what it does, when it does, for a reason. The entire universe is a system of order, beauty and purpose.

We are one-of-a-kind, amazing, and eternal souls and we are not left to be kicked around by random circumstances with no meaning or purpose. Our lives are not a bunch of bad-luck accidents that mean nothing and serve no purpose.

The whole universe was created to serve us. This entire universe is here to facilitate our learning and growth.

With this mindset, we could accept and embrace “what is” and spend our time looking for the lessons and the blessings instead of complaining about, resisting and regretting that things aren’t different. You must change your expectations.

Decide to embrace what your life is and stop suffering over made-up illusions. This doesn’t mean you give-up working to make things better, though. You will keep working on improving things, while at the same time understanding that you are where you are for a reason.

It’s all about choosing trust and love, recognizing our value is never on the line and our journey is a perfect classroom journey. With this choice, there is nothing to forgive. Life is exactly what it was meant to be, no need for expectations.

Signature Linda Grace Cox


Linda Grace Cox - headshot to right - 150x150 About Linda: With a bachelors in Social Work, Linda is 51 years old, happily married with eight children and has been living with Multiple Sclerosis since 1995. Linda’s unexpected path in life has led to her helping others choose happiness in their own realities. Linda’s focus has always been to help others with compassion and nurturing, whether working as a group counselor at the abused women’s shelter in Anchorage or while raising their eight children, Linda has always been a nurturer. Her gift for wanting to help others fits perfectly into reaching her goal of becoming a certified life coach.

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