Kim Giles, founder of Clarity Point Coaching taught me about fear. Now I’m going to help you understand how fear influences people’s bad behavior.
This will help you to see the situation accurately which is the beginning of appropriately responding.
Here are some basic principles of human behavior that will help you understand their thinking.
Principle 1: Fear drives most human behavior and it drives 80 percent of bad behavior.
Principle 2: If someone is behaving badly, it is usually not about you. It is usually about their fears about themselves. They might be taking it out on you, but it’s not really about you.
Principle 3: There are two core fears that drive most bad behavior. They are…
1. A fear of not being good enough (the fear of failure).
2. A fear that my life’s not going to be good enough (the fear of loss).
Principle 4: People often cast you as the bad guy so they can feel better about themselves and feel like the good guy. Just because they create this story, doesn’t make it true.
Principle 5: If most bad behavior is motivated by fear, then most bad behavior is really a request for love or validation. That is what this person needs.
These five principles can help you understand why people behave badly.
It is amazing how understanding this principle changes how we feel about others bad behavior. When we feel irritated or offended by someone, when we understand of the cause, we often choose a positive reaction.
If you’re interested in finding out what your fears are, you can get a glimpse of your subconscious mind by taking the FREE Fear Assessment Test by clicking here.
About Linda: With a bachelors in Social Work, Linda is 51 years old, happily married with eight children and has been living with Multiple Sclerosis since 1995. Linda’s unexpected path in life has led to her helping others choose happiness in their own realities. Linda’s focus has always been to help others with compassion and nurturing, whether working as a group counselor at the abused women’s shelter in Anchorage or while raising their eight children, Linda has always been a nurturer. Her gift for wanting to help others fits perfectly into reaching her goal of becoming a certified life coach.